Relationships are difficult under the best of circumstances. But if there has been a serious breach such as an affair, it is even more difficult. The wronged party experiences a vast array of negative emotions, including depression, hurt and anger. But it's important to move past these emotions, especially the anger. Allowing it to fester will have a negative impact on all other relationships, including your friends, family, and coworkers. It is even harmful to your health.
Having anger in your heart can unconsciously affect relationships with friends, family and coworkers. That being said, it is important to take measures to get over anger in order to regain your emotional health.
Here are some suggestions on how to handle your anger after being cheated on.
1. Talking to someone about your feelings is one of the best ways, either with a trained professional, or with a close and discreet friend or family member.
Men are notorious for being bad communicators. They have a tendency to keep things bottled up inside. If that is true of you, it's vital that you allow yourself to open up and let the anger out. It does the most damage when it is kept pent up inside.
2. Another way to get the anger out is to write your feelings down. Again, this comes easier for some than others. The point is to get those feelings on the outside; to work out what you are thinking and feeling so you can move on to deciding what you want. Can you forgive and forget? Is the relationship worth salvaging? Is your wife willing to try again? Are you?
3. While you are navigating these rough waters it's also important to take care of yourself physically. Eating right and getting the proper exercise will release endorphines that combat depression, as well as elevate your self-esteem and confidence.
3. Getting over anger can start with evaluating the reason why your wife actually cheated and accepting the situation. It is not about whose fault it is but what lessons can be taken from the situation.
Take the lesson and forget what happened. It is easier said than done, but in time things will get easier. Take measures to forget it one day at a time. Distract yourself by being busy and just move on with your life.
Consider the circumstances. Was she feeling neglected, taken for granted? Was she working in a job that required lots of travel and lonely nights in a hotel room? What could or should be changed to continue with the relationship?
Whether with or without her, you now have a chance at a fresh start. Use the lessons you've learned from the past to build a meaningful and happy future.
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